Disclaimer: This does not apply to anyone with a medical condition or impediment that makes them have to wear a wig/weave, etc.
While walking around my favorite campus, I saw a trend that bothered me so much I decided to interrogate a lady about it.
“Why do you wear that fake sh** on your head?”
I asked the above question to a good friend of mine. She replied by going on about it being easier to manage and blah blah blah. I told her she was lying. I knew why she was doing it, but I wanted to know if she would be honest about it. So I told her what I’m about to tell you.
There are few reasons that matter more when it comes to why women wear weaves than that they think it looks good. There’s this stigma that natural African hair is ugly and this 3 foot skunk fur on your head is supposed to be more attractive. Because these are the standards set by models and actresses and sex symbols that all the men around you drool over. Your Beyonce’s, Rihannas, Halle Berry’s and all this; they fuel this illusion that to be gorgeous you must have “nice hair”.
It’s only natural to assume that getting that track put in will attract more male attention and female appreciation. And it will. But at a cost.
That cost is not however much you spent on buying that thing and have it sewn or glued in, not even the time and delicate care it requires to keep it looking somewhat realistic. But the fact that the minute you put that on, you admit that you lack confidence in your own appearance, pride in your ethnic predispositions, and enough backbone to not compromise basic values for the sake of social acceptance.
By all means, do not for one second think I don’t appreciate how hard it is to keep natural African hair looking good. Riddle me this though, all things considered, don’t you put that same effort into keeping fake hair looking good? And even if that’s not the case, what type of image do you create for yourself and what type of attention does that person garner?
I’ll quote the feminist cum rapper Tupac Shakur on this one.
“Fake hair, fake nails, fake eyes too,
So you’re bound to mess with fake guys too.”
Yeah, if your dude is sitting next to you petting the plastic fibers on your head right now telling you they’re hot, reconsider. He’d probably like to stuff some silicon in your chest region and turn you into a real Barbie doll.
I honestly don’t know how dudes like that operate because I’m allergic to idiots. But I do know how real men think. And I’ve seen them make puzzled expressions and heard them crack a vicious joke as some dark skinned lass walked by with red and yellow hair, and a matching outfit, looking like a Spanish flag.
We know you’re not a natural blonde. We’re aware that your hair is not 3 feet long. We are African too, and know just what your hair should look like. We sincerely hope you’re not doing it for us. Seriously. A compromise can be made for the argument of a perm, but please, women, embrace your beauty and remain natural. You are all gorgeous. You don’t have to let out your inner Angela Davis and let your ‘fro grow. But at the same time, you can stop turning your heads into pieces of abstract woven art.
We’ll love you just the way God put you here.