Every time we mention you the floodgates of feedback open up. Most times it’s constructive and/or positive, sometimes it’s vexed and misguided, and we completely appreciate that as well. Your curse words and expletives have been duly noted, thank you much. But every now and again, we’ll get feedback that’s downright surprising. There was one such question that I’ve been asked 3 separate times by 3 different ladies in response to 3 unrelated posts.
“What do you guys have against women?”
I’m sorry, what? I missed the part where we had a problem with women. Yes, we occasionally give opinions and criticisms, but they all come from a place of love. Although I’m increasingly sure that doesn’t even matter.
See, when it comes to evaluation of inter-sex matters, one must tread carefully. When a woman has insights on
men or women, she’s seldom called anything worse than a “feminist”. But let a man give the very same opinion while his peen is still functioning and attached. He’s more than likely a chauvinist pig amongst other very nasty things.
In our case, we’re supposedly mad at women.
Even if we were, you’d be surprised how much angrier women are with women than men are. For all the hate men are charged with expelling on their female counterparts, women do double. It’s almost like Black people in the states: you’re only allowed to insult them if you’re one of them, otherwise you’re racist.
Here’s a fun little exercise. Ladies, when’s the last time you had a conversation with your fellow Venusians about another woman you couldn’t stand? And fellas, how many lady friends do you have that hang around with the guys because they can’t get along with the girls? Now flip that script. Guys, when’s the last time you got together with your boys to dog on a guy or a girl? And ladies, how many guys hang out with you because they can’t stand men?
In my case, I know girls that hang out with dudes 90% of the time because, and I quote, “Those b****s are crazy.” As for the flipside, most guys I know hang out with guys. And we don’t talk about other dudes when we’re chilling. We seldom attack women either. Conversations on women that are negative are usually very brief and to the point.
“She did [whatever evil deed].”
“Oh that’s messed up.”
“Yeah man. I was kinda mad.”
“Yep. She’s fine though.”
“Helll yeah. What’s the score?”
As opposed to exhuming skeletons and dirt and shoveling it all over your so-called friends.
The simple reason behind this is that the average man is extremely simple to please with extremely primal needs. They have no space to process complex emotions; just as hard as love is to digest, hate is no easy meal either. We are predominantly very impulsive and left-brained.
On the other hand, the average woman is usually more complex, emotionally driven and resolute. Ergo, less likely to be satisfied by anything that doesn’t match her standards. In behavior or otherwise. Which is good.
Women are the reason behind any progress in the world. Guys, not so much. Once TV went big screen and HD, and blowjobs became more socially palpable, it was hard to justify what more needed to happen in the world to a man.
Meanwhile, women pushed everyone to be better and demand more out of life. We are forever grateful for that, amongst a million other things, which is why there are so many days dedicated to Women, like Women’s Day. Your contribution is vital.
Although sometimes it’s not welcome. Much as you are the steering force behind the world, you also tend to hate to be pushed around by someone who thinks they know better and be asked to do more in your lives. Like, say, another woman.
Now this is not to say all women do this, but it is noticeably more. A critical mass.
So it is that while men might have problems with women, women will outrightly hate other women. And they’ll write tomes of books of self-loathing spew and anguish and other women will read them and call them enlightened and empowering.
But when some male African blogger says that materialism is a bad trait in women, he has a problem with women
And they say they want equality….
Postscript: We are aware that it’s Women’s Day but aside from acknowledging that fact, we shall not be doing anything special. Why? Because we celebrate our women everyday, as you should. Tell them you love them, thank them for doing everything for you. Man, woman or child, you are indebted to at least a handful of women; make them feel special. All the time.