Every few months I come across this exact scenario.
A gorgeous, brilliant, awe-inspiring, jaw-dropping woman will walk her weepy self into a group of “close friends” and share her woes. It’s always something to do with this man she perceives as perfect. Being the skeptic I am, it usually takes me all of 23 seconds to immediately realize this guy is scum. Anyhow, she goes on dreaming about said perfect person until she gets to this line:
I hate to be that “relationship guy” but no matter how hard I try to shake it off and never speak on man-woman relations, cosmic magnetism draws me back to it. This time, a guy friend came to me for advice that I’ve dished out one too many a time. So I decided to write on it.
Now, I must point out that before a guy goes to another guy for advice, he has to have tried EVERY alternative under the sun. Reaching out to another male with an emasculating situation is like signing an amputation form – the regular treatment has to have already failed. So it caught me off-guard when dude told me “iCon, I don’t know what to do about this girl.”
“What do you mean?” I replied.
“She wants me to be her boyfriend and…I don’t think I want to be.” Continue reading →
I’m sure our good friend has a ton of nice things he could say about women and men too but let’s face it, sugar-coating things or beating around the bush wouldn’t be too constructive, now would it?
The truth of the matter is that men and women desperately want to ‘understand’ each other. For this reason, we read, we write, we listen, we interact, we share experiences yet, time and time again we are constantly reminded just how little we actually know about each other. We (male bloggers of DR) are on a noble yet perilous quest to expand our understanding of relationships between women and men or atleast write enough about women to convince ourselves of the same. In doing so, we rely on our personal observations and experiences both socially and within the relationship context. Admittedly, deriving generalizations from one’s own personal experiences with the opposite sex can often times be inaccurate, misleading and on the rare occasion offensive but it cannot be denied that it helps to provoke thoughtful discussion, meaningful insight and hopefully lead to a better understanding of man-woman dynamics for all.
Don’t get me wrong though, I hate stereotyping more than the next person but when sh*t hits the fan and arguments between men and women break out, we all go running back to the stereotypes and generalizations that have been with us our entire lives to help us ‘understand’ stuff.
We all generalise and stereotype each other. Women and men alike.
Disclaimer: What you’re about to read is yet another bunch of words I put together in short sentences arranged haphazardly to look like poetry futile attempt to sum up the differences between men and women.