To-Do List – Erykah Badu

Didnt Cha Know.

The promiscuity double standard. We all are familiar with it. Just to break it down: men are allowed to have as many sexual partners, flings, one-night stands, mistresses, clandes, chips-funga’s as they want but if a woman does it, she’s a h… *gardening implement*.

Dont blame me, ladies. Blame society.

From an early age, women are taught how to walk, talk and behave like ladies from the way they’re supposed to sit, to the manner in which they dress, the way they eat and most importantly the way they carry themselves around men. Therefore any deviation from the standard of “being a lady” is automatically frowned upon by society. In fact, in the dating and relationship game, men are literally given carte blanche to insult, degrade, and dismiss ‘promiscuous’ ‘loose’ women. I’m not a feminist, but I dont think its right. I dont see why, in the case of a new couple for instance, the guy has more of a right to be pissed off and upset that his girlfriend has had more sexual partners than he has or more sexual encounters than he would expect her to have had.

 However, the reality of today’s world is that both women and men are evolving. Men, on the one hand, are not the chivalrous, alpha-male types and are more open to embracing new lifestyles and other facets of their sexuality. Women, on the other hand, are assuming a greater control over their sexual and reproductive capacities and are exerting more pressure on men and their notions of masculinity than ever before.

My proof? Erykah Badu, ofcourse.

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